Approachable Online Therapy in Oklahoma and Virginia
A space to feel embraced, empowered, and untamed.
Life feels overwhelming and utterly exhausting.
Every day is another day of worry, panic, and feeling like no matter what you do you just aren’t good enough. You keep having the same type of relationships, people pretend to be someone else, or you fall in love with their potential only to be let down. You compare yourself to other people and find yourself spending your days on the sidelines wishing you could just change and be like everyone else. You’re tired of every little thing making you feel like the world is ending.
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You are not alone. 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men are survivors of intimate partner violence. Abuse isn’t just physical—it’s a cycle of emotional manipulation designed to dysregulate your nervous system, leaving you feeling like you are the problem. Their tactics are meant to turn everything around, making you doubt yourself while trusting them instead.
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Anxiety can feel like living in a constant state of chaos, as if your body is working against you. This often happens because we are strong—we push through, suppress our emotions, and tell ourselves that things aren’t that bad. When our body reacts despite our efforts, it can be frustrating, even angering.
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Our past is unchangeable, yet its impact can continue to shape our present. The beliefs and patterns we develop are often rooted in past experiences, making them difficult to break—especially when we lack alternative foundations to guide us. When trauma lingers, our nervous system can keep us stuck in survival mode, making it challenging to envision a path forward.
I believe life can be better, you can overcome the past, and recognize the peace within yourself.
You are not crazy, you are not the problem, and you are not a terrible person. What you’re feeling is valid—the sadness, confusion, and heartbreak of finding yourself in a situation you never imagined.
You shouldn’t have to wake up feeling the heaviness in your chest the second you open your eyes. It is not fair to have conversations and then spend hours and hours replaying them and shaming yourself for what you could have done better. Anxiety is taking over your life.
You shouldn’t have to feel controlled anymore. After years of working with both survivors and perpetrators, I can tell you this: abusive people are intentional in tearing you down. They create so much chaos and dysregulation that you can’t even look at them—you’re too busy trying to fix yourself. Narcissistic abuse thrives on emotional manipulation and control, making it nearly impossible to explain to others because, if you did, it would sound unbelievable. Sometimes you can even see a pattern of people within your past; sometimes that theme keeps reoccurring, causing even more emotional dysregulation.
But you are not alone. I have walked alongside countless people in your shoes, and I truly believe we can work together to help you reclaim your self-worth. I’ve seen people who felt completely broken rebuild themselves—stronger, freer, and more at peace. It’s not fair that they had to, but the life they now live is their own, and that kind of freedom? It is absolutely something you can have, too
How we can help
I specialize in therapy for lasting change.
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Meet Chantel
I have dedicated my entire career to working with survivors of intimate partner violence, narcissistic abuse, sexual trauma, anxiety, and low self-worth. Anxiety is something that can bleed into every aspect of your life. You need a therapist with real-life experience with anxiety—someone who truly gets it. Someone who understands that a panic attack can feel like you’re dying, who deeply empathizes with how even the smallest thing can trigger discomfort. You deserve a therapist who is real and genuine.
This work is my passion because it is complex, deeply impactful, and life-altering.
In the early years of my work, I also taught perpetrators of domestic violence, giving me firsthand insight into how they think and operate.
People either understand what you’ve been through, or they don’t. You can’t teach someone the way abuse slowly infiltrates every part of your life, and how it erodes your self-worth and self-esteem until there’s barely anything left. You can’t fully explain what it’s like to look in the mirror and not recognize yourself because you gave everything to someone else. Even if you’re physically safe now, that doesn’t mean you feel safe inside.
But with me, you won’t have to explain any of that—I already grasp the weight of what you’re saying. I might not have all of the answers, but I truly believe you. And more than anything, I want to offer support, call you out when you need it, and help you move past those a**holes.
I am here to provide a safe space for you to practice vulnerability, be embraced, and validated.
How it works
Life is stressful enough right now. Let me make this part as easy as possible.
Schedule a consultation.
Simply schedule a free 15-minute consultation. We’ll get to know each other better and chat about what brought you here and what you’re looking for. I’ll answer any questions you have and we can see if we’re a good fit. Schedule here.
Get to work.
Once a good fit has been determined then regular weekly sessions or your therapy intensive will be scheduled; and your healing journey will begin!
Experience real change.
As you feel yourself being more present and connected, things will seem less chaotic and overwhelming, and you will finally get to start moving forward and life will more authentic.